Like I said yesterday, I will be continuing on with the e-mail that was sent to me and Mr. Nice Guy with part II. This time though, its advice for a friend, now that's friendship.
The second part of the e-mail said "Now "my friend" on the other hand, she likes this guy, who in which our other friend hates. He defiantly is not very smart, and for whatever other reason, she just really dislikes this kid. But aside from that, "my friend" has her heart set on him. He does not seem like a bad kid, just I don’t want to see our tight friendship be jeopardizes by some guy that probably won’t last more then a few months, knowing "my friend" and peer pressure. She does not know what to do with our other friend, and I want to give here some advice, but what."
Ok now this one, I find to be easy but difficult at the same time. Once again fear does show, but not for all the same reasons. She fears the friendship of the pact and acceptance, but as well as to be able to keep this guy, but this is some what of a test of friendship and loyalty. To many times are relationships destroyed over peer pressure, meaning this will be just as big of a test for the two (if they decide to go out), as well as a group of friends.
I take it, that you guys have probably been close friends for a while, and like I said yesterday, that if a true friend sees that one has these truly strong feelings for another, then it shouldn't be a problem that overly concerns him/her. But then again not all friends are like this, for many reasons, she could be jealous, she may just not understand what her feelings, she could like this guy in secret, or she may be just hiding something from you guys that may be private to her. And if she doesn't approve it isn't something that should be focused on in a healthy relationship, nor with any one's opinion of who they are or if they are the right type, or what ever. All that matters is that they like each other.
Now one variable that is not mentioned is, does he like her or even know her? I am taking this a yes, but I know that if you read Mr. Nice Guy's blog, you may see something similar, but "Nice Guys" come in different shapes, sizes and intellectual levels. And who is to say that this guy is not perfect for her. But you have to realize, your other friend is not just going to start liking this guy over night, the best she can do is except the idea.
My theory and advice is, "We are all individuals with our own thoughts and emotions; so to me, there is no way of knowing others feelings." She needs to first find out if they BOTH like each other, the consult the friend that this is not her decision, and that either she has to except it or don't get involved. Once again, I hope this helps, both your friends, and those others reading this.
Remember for any questions, concerns, or questions or ideas you want answered, comment below or send me an e-mail at teentheory@hotmail.com . But for now, just remember, its a thought.
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